Today I was very happy to see my Tarheels beat the crap out of the Sooners. I have been telling people all year Oklahoma is overrated and today, they proved me right. Only one pleyer on their team showed up today and they were overmatched from the start. What makes me happy though is how thoroughly they dominated Oklahoma.
When I used to play basketball, I played to destroy the other teams I played against. I wanted to humiliate my opponent and to make sure that they knew I was better and that my team was better. Hitting a game winning shot is a great feeling, but it is an even better feeling to just dominate your opponent. To dominate someone so thoroughly, that it gets into their psyche, that’s what I aimed to do. I wanted to frustrate someone so badly that they couldn’t get their head in the game. A lot of times, I did. I talked nonstop to the people who were guarding me and I talked as I guarded them. I lifted me knee on lay-ups and stuck it in peoples chest. When I rebounded, I made sure my elbows were out and if someone got too close, they got stuck. If I fouled someone, I fouled them hard. For me, winning was the most important thing. It’s the reason why you play. If you are serious at playing any sport, you play that sport to win.
I know, the handful of people who read this will probably say “winning isn’t everything”. For me, that’s the wrong attitude. I loved basketball. I played it several hours a day for years and I was very good. I believe I came close to fulfilling 100% of my basketball potential. Part of this was due to my hatred of losing. Playing hard for 30 minutes and losing isn’t fun, it sucks. It is fun to play hard and win. That’s not to say I never enjoyed a game I lost. I can go and play with my friends for fun and enjoy it, win or lose. When you’re playing in a gym against a group of people you don’t know, you gotta bring it and you don’t bring it by accepting failure.
Now, I am not saying that my way is right. I certainly do not tell my children that winning is everything, BUT, I do teach them not to accept failure. If you accept failure, you will never succeed.